Work habits

Most Some days I feel like I'm in this alone.

I cook, I clean, I volunteer at the school.

Just because I'm a SAHM doesn't mean I'm not busy. It would be a wonderful thing to have the husband cook dinner once in a while or take over homework duty. I'd ask him to take over bath duty, but the last time I asked for that, his eyes bugged out and his head started spinning. I'm not sure he ever wants that chore again!

I don't want anyone to think that the husband is ignoring us or taking advantage of me. He's not. If I ask, he will be there. But it would be nice to have the house cleaned or dinner cooked without asking. Especially this week when I am pulling my hair out trying to make a deadline.

The reason the husband doesn't jump in and help as often as I would like is because he works. He might not admit it if you asked, but he's a work-a-holic. Even when he's laying in our bed instead of sitting at his desk at the office, he's working. Sometimes it's actual work stuff he's doing. Other times it's one of many side projects. Some for pleasure, some with the intent to make some extra money.

I wish I would have known about his work habits going in to our marriage. It would not have stopped me from marrying him. We really are two peas in a pod. But fair warning would have been appreciated.

With the way our schedules are right now, it's not possible for me to work outside of the home. I love being a SAHM, but sometimes I wish I could contribute financially. I do have my days where I want to scream at the top of my lungs.


But I know the husband works damn hard to be able to provide for us. I am so thankful that he not only has a job, but has a good one.

I am also thankful that those around him also recognize his hard work.

Yesterday the husband had his yearly review. I can't believe he's been with this company for 4 years now! Not only did he get a great review, but he also got an awesome raise.

This week, we shall celebrate.

Next week it's back to screaming and pulling my hair out.

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Oka said...

I think many of us SAHMs share the exact same sentiments.

Congrats to your hubby.

Aunt Crazy said...

Hi, I'm here from Shell's place! I was a SAHM for a short time, many years ago, and I had those same feelings. I've worked outside the home for years now and I still feel the same. Even though we both work and provide financially, all the home stuff falls to me. It is hard to hide my resentment sometimes and I get frustrated, but in the end, I just do what needs to be done.

Ashley@LearningLifeAsLucy said...

I think a lot of people can feel your pain. My husband truly is very helpful [but I use his OCD and ADHD as the cause lol] but I have several friends whose husbands are just like yours, except they aren't busy- they just don't want to help her. I think sometimes, we telepathically expect our men to just know what we want- but honestly- they really don't have the capability to do so. I think the best route to go is to just say "Hey listen, I know your busy but at least once a week could you make dinner or just clean up a little I need the help!" I never thought it would work but it really tends to work wonders, moreso than me trying to have rob read my mind lol. Hopefully you get the help you need soon! GREAT Pour Your Heart out by the way- and a new follower =]

Sara said...

Congrats on the review/ raise... my husband is a workaholic too, and trust me, I feel your frustation!!

MrsJenB said...

This is so interesting to me - since I'm the one who works while DH is the SAHH right now. I'm the one who is working from the minute I get out of bed til the minute I'm back under the blankets. And trust me, I'd rather relax. There's a lot of pressure being the sole breadwinner, just as there's a ton of pressure with being a SAHM. The grass is always greener - on the weekends, I'm so busy with household stuff I almost wish I could go back to work.

Regardless, I'm happy to hear that your husband got a raise! Congrats!

Shell said...

Yay for the raise!

I'm struggling right now b/c before, I would get irritated that my husband wouldn't help w/o me asking- but I was mostly okay with it since I was at home. Now, though- still at home, but I'm working. And I think that the household/kid stuff needs to be split more evenly.

PythonKatie said...

Congrats on his good review and the raise!

I too am a SAHM for now...I work part time for a friend but it's really sporadic, a day or two here and there now. I do some work from home things, but I wish I was more active in the workforce. I totally understand that desire.

Hope you guys get to enjoy some celebration time soon!

Renegades said...

I stay at home and I so get the feeling of wanting to contribute financially to the family.

Steph said...

Congratulations on your husband's raise!!

Best to you all and celebrate with something good!