Weighing In

So I have this thing. This thing that I always think about. Some people think I'm nuts, but it really does bother me.

I'm going to link up with Shell for



I don't do this meme every week, but when I have something heavy on my mind, I see this as permission to get it off my chest. Due to things that have been said to me in the past, I feel the need to post Shell's rules as well.

I hate that I even have to say this, but, whether you are participating or just reading, please keep in mind that the people linking really are sharing something from the heart. So, please, BE RESPECTFUL. We might not agree with each other, but we can all accept someone's right to have a different opinion than we do and NOT attack someone because of this. Play nice. :)

The thing that bothers me has to do with body image. I'm little and I realize this. But it is not by choice. No I'm not saying I would rather be overweight, but a few extra pounds would be nice. I have my days where I put on my clothes and feel absolutely great. But then I also have those days where I'm sick of my clothes not fitting right. I don't really have the hips or butt to hold up a pair of pants. I swear, all the clothes out there were made for those who are curvy and/or have big boobs. Um... not me. Belts - those I do have.

I guess it wouldn't bother me if people wouldn't comment on my weight all the time. Saying things like "It's sickening how skinny you are!" - how exactly do you take that? Yes, I know it's a compliment. It's the way it's phrased that I don't like. Pointing out something that I'm not always happy about makes me even more self-conscious. For my birthday or Christmas, if you want to get me clothes so you have to ask what size I wear, just write it down and call it a day, ok? No need so sigh and shake your head. Thanks!

I've also had people accuse me of having an eating disorder. I love my food and I love to eat. Throwing up is by far one of, if not my least favorite thing to do. If you would see my family, my uncles in particular, they are almost all tall and skinny. So I do come by this naturally. Or maybe it's a medical thing - thyroid or something. I hate going to the doctor as much as I hate blood work so I've never had that checked out. I know I should though. There's lots of things I should do, but just don't. But, whatever. That's for another time.

Anyway, back to my point. I am quite aware of what I look like. You may not realize I'm not always happy about it, but please, think about how you phrase your comments.



Until next time....

16 comments:

Stacey said...

Ugh! I know that feeling. Before I had my kids, I was skinny. Didn't even weigh 100 lbs! I was constantly asked if I had an eating disorder, which made me crazy because I *tried* to gain weight back then. I got mad at my OB at my 6 week postpartum visit, when he said he was glad I hadn't lost all my baby weight because I was "scrawny" before.

Nobody could say I'm scrawny now...lol

Shell said...

They are jealous! Angie(In My Own Little Corner) is like that, too. I remember she would actually drink Slim Fast WITH her lunches in high school so that she could try to gain weight. But, she's just naturally skinny, like you.

People just don't think before they speak!

Thanks for linking up.

MommyLovesStilettos said...

I agree. People should think before they speak. I think a lot of people assume that a thin person doesn't mind hearing those comments. That's not always the case. *HUGS*

Kmama said...

I am no where near skinny like that. I was thin once in my life, but not "skinny". What's funny is that people would never go up to someone and say, "Man, you're so fat it's sickening." Why do they think it's okay to someone who is thin?

MommaPebz said...

I used to be the same way - its hard to believe looking at my pics lol, but before I had my daughter I was stick thin no matter WHAT I ate. I got the eating disorder crap, & I also had NOTHING to fill out jeans or a top! It's who you are, so don't feel bad! Plus, its a lot easier to buy a push up bra then it is to minimize those suckers haha! =)

Mae Rae said...

Amen to you! This is great. There are alot of people out there that don't think before they speak, and another AMEN to the comment about commenting! The same people don't think before they write.

singedwingangel said...

too skinny or too fat.. what is sad is that as a scoiety we can't just be happy where we are period.. I know I ma overweight but my change has to come from inside me no amount of smart alec comments or rudeness is going to make me lose weight. Just like no amount of feeding you tons of food is apt to make you gain I have a nephew like that. If I ate what he ate I would gain 20 lbs by looking at it. Not him skinny as a rail and he TRIES to gain and can't..

Oka said...

I remember those comments. I suffered with them for years. All the way to my second pregnancy. Then things got worse with the third and fourth. Now I would give anything to be called Bonez, or to have people be jealous of my weight.

purseblogger said...

It is so sad that people don't get it. Nobody seems to care anymore how to phrase things, or to just keep quiet. I agree with Shell, they are just jealous.

Kristin said...

People don't think before they speak and the anonymity of the internet seems to give them permission to continue that rudeness. {{{Hugs}}}

Meeko Fabulous said...

Oh I totally know what you mean! I've put on a few (ok, 40) pounds in the last couple of years . . . My sister who's always been thin is always making comments (and I don't think she realizes it) about my weight. So yea, it's nice when people think before they speak, you know?

Aphrodite's Mortal Friend (ME) said...

Everything is relative- and too many people think they have it sooo bad cause they weigh a little bit too much- they look at you and are envious becuase they think you have such great control ... they should shut the F up!

Laurel said...

My best friend in high school was short and thin. She had people call her names, couldn't find clothes that matched her hip/length without there being a gap in one or the other, and was always accused of being anorexic. It taught me--who has always been severely overweight (I'm actually smaller now at 25 than I was at 14)--that being her size wasn't all I assumed it was when I was even younger. It's still hard on her, ten years later, because she has the same frame. People can be really nasty. I later dated a guy who had an autoimmune disorder that kept him really thin and he could never find shirts that fit. He said the whole world expected him to be 20 pounds heavier--and, come to think of it, people always made the sickeningly skinny comment to both of them. Offensive.

Ugh. People don't think sometimes before they speak.

kelly said...

I had the same problem growing up. My mama taught me to passive-aggressively say, “I’m not that skinny, you must just be used to looking at fat people.” It made them realize that yes, I was being offensive, but they started it! Plus, it made them not say anything like that any more and made me feel better! You just don’t talk about someone’s weight, REGARDLESS!!! And accusing someone of having an eating disorder! Why don’t you just accuse me of being on crack??? Crack heads are skinny, too! ...oh wait, THAT would be offensive. lol.

Steven Anthony said...

why is it people always feel the need to tell us....oh your so skinny...or the one I get, your face is red...duh, yes I know its called roscea......as if we dont know what they are pointing out...drives me nuts.....

Thanx for posting this and speaking from your heart;)

magically ordinary said...

I always find it so strange what people will say. No one would ever make a comment if you were overweight.

I look very young and have been misstaken for my oldest son's older sister and asked how old I am. No one would ever say "wow you look really old, how old are you?"